Girls like to talk about their everyday problems; from beginning to end - regardless of whether they have a prepared point to make. So they are descriptive and more expressive of what they think and feel. They will typically discuss every moment of their experiences with their friends, even if it is just for the sake of it. So they will talk about situations even if they dont have a particular point to reach or to prove, and quite often - they will identify problems and hurdles as a result of this endeavour. Their approach is more holistic and the pattern is one of
exploring, discovering and concluding".
So the wife goes home and speaks to her husband about everything; from the office water machine that didn't work, and the little remarks that someone made and the funny look that the other girl gave. She talks about it with her husband and her girlfriends in order to understand and process her own thoughts. In doing so, she somehow "gets it" in the end.
Guys like to store the nuances of their day-to-day experiences, but usually dont like to talk about every little detail. It doesn't mean they ignore them. They will gather information as it arrives, but rarely talk about them openly. They will try to figure it out in their own head; akin to the way that men hate reading instruction manuals and always try to do it themselves - until they realise that they need to get help. It is only when they fail to understand something in their mind that they then decide to let it out; often in a rather frustrated manner. So they adopt a more technical approachl; a pattern of
identifying and resolving OR identifying and eventually asking others.
So the guy faces issues throughout the day, and doesn't bother to deal with them because each of them may not bother him. In their atomic form, they are just idle thoughts which he may later compile and try to understand; they are dismissed and left dormant. When someone raises an issue or he faces a problem regarding them, he is then forced to think and he tries to calculate why, what and how. Sometimes he manages, sometimes he fails - which is why women always accuse their husbands of not talking about their feelings. Whereas the guy only feels he has to, when the need actually arises.
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Just a few thoughts from a discussion with a colleague about male/female mentalities with regards to problem solving/attitudes...
The above are mainly my own observations.. You guys agree? or not?
