[font=Arial]Read Now the 10 Tips to win the love of your husband by

Muhammad AlShareef

1. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful. All good things are from Allah.

Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah.

2. Listen and Obey! Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect..

3. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him..

4. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault. When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends.".

5. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire..

6. Joke and play games with your husband. A mans secret: they seek women who are lighthearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh..

7. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house. From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband..

8. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband..

9. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting. Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him..

10. Use your 'Fitnah' to win the heart of your husband All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband..[/font]


Ladies, for further information, you can also purchase this book 'Winning the Heart of your Husband' by Ibrahim Ibn Saaleh Al Mahmu... I have this book and i have to say it is very educative and surprising...

“Listen and Obey!” … 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault.”.. “Your husband is the Ameer of the household.”


What kind of man would want to marry a woman that will “Listen and Obey!”? that’s not a healthy marriage.

Its a very healthy marriage brother.

Listen and Obey are used to show the strong necessaty to respect your husband

When Muadh ibn Jabal returned from al-Sham he prostrated to the Prophet who said, "What is this, Muadh?" He replied, when I came to Sham I found them prostrating to their priests and bishops, so I told myself I would like to do the same to you." The Messenger of Allah said: "Do not! If I were to order anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would order woman to prostrate to her husband due to the greatness of his right over her. I swear by Allah that no woman shall taste the sweetness of faith until she fulfills the right of her husband even if he should want her while she is on top of the camel-saddle!"

"And they (Women) have rights similar of those (of men) over them in kindness and Men are a degree above them." (Qur'an 2:228) - Men and women in marriage are to be treated equally, BUT men are to receive that much more respect/kindness/obedience from their wives.

I agree with having respect for your husband which every wife should have but....

There are'nt alot of 'men' out there that you can respect!

Thats not a marriage; that’s slavery.

And that quote reminds me of this

“All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others”

A proclamation by the pigs who control the government in the novel Animal Farm, by George Orwell. The sentence is a comment on the hypocrisy of governments that proclaim the absolute equality of their citizens but give power and privileges to a small elite.


*note
slavery was outlawed in Saudi Arabia in 1962

woman make up 70% of those enrolled in universities but make up just 5% of the workforce in Saudi Arabia

Check you out sticking up for the sisters! We need more men like you!

I think Islam is taken the wrong way because the words are interpreted wrong or are just purely mistaken, especially when it comes to the rights of a woman in Islam, women have a lot of rights in Islam if countries like Saudi only have 5% of women working its is not because of Islam but because of the chauvinistic men that live there. Who then bring up their sons to think and act the same way.

I don’t think men are equal to women we are in no way made equal but we are equal in different ways. That is why a husband’s duty is to look after his wife and children and to protect them, financially, emotionally and physically – that in itself is a huge responsibility, you will be surprised at how many men actually fail to meet the requirements of a husband and it is overlooked because he is a man.

Is it not only fair that a wife respects her husband in return?

Slavery is wrong! But it does not say anywhere that women are slaves to their husband – you are slave only to your creator.

Some quotes are interpretations made by someone else - human error leads to further mis-interpretation, hence the need for those who are muslim or jewish or hindu or whatever - to learn teh language of yoru books so that you can interprete it yourself.

Absolutely....One has to learn the true interpretations of words before judging what it may be saying.

Br Abdul Hye interpreted 'Listen' and 'Obey' as words of slavery, but when you learn about marriage in islam it's not at all like that. Marriage is Beautiful...as Allah says in the Quran:

“And among His Signs is this that He created for you spouses of your own kind, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy for one another: verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” (Quran 30:21)

Sima...you're right, there aren't many men out there you can respect...and men(and alot of women) should learn that marriage is a 2 way thing - you give to get, you love to be loved, you respect to be respected. If a woman is the key to her home then the man is the shield. If a woman is the foundation of her home then the man is the Structure. Both have to work at it together. I went to a talk last week where the Shiekh was describing the private life of our Prophet SAW

Men and women ARE equal, BUT in different ways.

Its great to see Br Abdul Hye is favour of the sisters, there aren't many men like that.

Abdul Hye, there is a well known principle in Islam that "There is no obedience to the creation, in the disobedience to Allah".

The creation would include husbands, wives, bosses, elders, etc. So therefore for example, I am subservient to my boss as far as work is concerned, and likewise if I was a woman then I would be subservient to my husband - but its always in the context of what is:

a) Permissible in Islam - the husband/boss (whoever is in authority) can't ask his subordinates to do something haram or sinful.
b) Reasonable - the husband can't ask the wife to do something ridiculous like stand on one foot for an hour lol. Because then that go against her right not to be oppressed or treated unfairly.

Listen and obey only when permissible, and reasonable.

Obey - thats a loaded word

I'm not gonna obey my husband, he has to obey me. And if he don't, i'm gonna hit him on the head with a saucepan!

Good luck with your marriage

Loool